We all have different bodies, beauty ideals, and experiences. We all feel different about issues like numbers and body image. This is precisely why Beauty Is Not a Number is looking for new contributors: to provide as big a variety of views and experiences as possible. Do you want to join the team? Then keep reading!
I had a secret — a terrible secret that I’d kept from my husband throughout our entire relationship. In fact, it was so bad that I thought it would tear us apart if I ever told him. It was something I hadn’t been honest about before we got involved. Even after we got together, I didn’t have the guts to go to him and come clean; that’s how ashamed I was. I feared that if I ever told him, he was going to tell me to go take a hike.
She’s a photographer and a model. She runs Fashionmilk.com — a website about the Dutch modelling world — and she is the coordinator for the Dutch department at Donna Models, Japan. Bianca Toeps (29) is deep in the fashion world, but she wound up there because of her eating disorder, rather than the other way round.
I entered the gym and, everywhere I went, not only did I feel the stares of people burning in my back; I actually saw them scrutinising me. Immediately I wondered: “Do I look weird? Are my legs chubby?” But with my hair in a bushy ponytail and brand new Nikes in my bag, I looked normal – like a human being. Since I already was recovering, I was beyond my I-want-to-feel-the-clothes-hanging-loosely-around-my-body phase. I wore a t-shirt that fitted my upper body perfectly and some shorts exposing my legs, which is not out of the ordinary when it’s so hot you don’t have to work out to get those beads of sweat on your forehead. Then it hit me, and that was when I discovered an Unwritten Rule at the gym. I mean, what did I — a thin twig — have to do there?
We all have dreams. Realistic ones, such as getting a degree or getting married… or getting that bikini body (but I think we have to agree that getting Doutzen Kroes’ butt is not the most realistic ideal ever). We also have big dreams. Mine was to create a platform that will help people who struggle with the same issues as I did (and do), where we can share and discuss views and experiences. Today, my dream has become reality.